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Quo verear neglegentur et. Novum utroque atomorum te eos. Epicuri ullamcorper necessitatibus ut cum, postea percipitur temporibus an sea. Nostro inciderint vix eu. Dicit possit eam an, liber vocent accusata vim ei. I will not let your drinking be the most important thing in my life. Actions speak louder than words. That would be punishing him. I told her that she was the only one who could do anything about her drinking, but that I could take certain steps to see that her drinking would not affect me and our children as far as meals were concerned.
I arranged with a neighbor to come in and cook the dinner. This went on for three weeks, then my wife asked for another chance. Although she still gets drunk nearly every night, now she at least waits until after she has cooked dinner. A very large order, but communication which has these qualities will accomplish several ends: It will confirm our individuality and dignity; the person who hears them cannot mistake their meaning; they carry no residue of regret for unfairness.
What alcoholism is doing to us gives rise to resentment. Resentment creates anger, and our anger must be dealt with, for our own health and growth. Living with an alcoholic can be a frustrating business, producing conflict after conflict. Both before and after sobriety is established, the alcoholic may say and do things that trouble her. If this self-destructive behavior can continue, no real growth, spiritual or emotional, can be expected. Otherwise, they can have two undesirable consequences:.
I thought I was the picture of serenity. It made me so frustrated, so nervous, that I began to take it out on my children. The least thing they did that bothered me, like a bit of spilled milk or childish wrangling, would cause me to fly into an uncontrollable rage until I had exhausted myself and sat trembling with fear at what my terrible temper was doing to my little ones.
I realized that I was punishing them for what had been done to me. I knew I would have to find other outlets for these feelings. She told us what she did about her anger instead of repressing it or venting it on innocent victims. I realize now that I was often the one who started it when he came home drunk. The result was always the same. I would go out in the backyard and dig. Eventually, I had a nice big patch of ground dug up to plant things in. And for a really satisfying outlet, one member of my group recommended making bread.
Sports like bowling or golf and tennis are great for releasing hostility. In addition to that, concentrating on winning the game keeps our minds free from tormenting thoughts.
Someone suggested to her that she give vent to her verbal explosions in the shower, and she tried it. If we can do that, we can be as violent as we please nobody else is going to see it anyway. We may not be able to control how we feel but we can control what we do about it. Discusses anger, communication, sex, and more.
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